7 things to do when you are grouchy…

October 17, 2011

The staycation kinda bombed, the bliss and the we-can-do-it togetherness is sort of waning due to even greater uncertainty- it’s like there is always one more step beyond the edge…and I am tired, passive aggressive and oh so grouchy…and what do you do with that the one step beyond? because THAT is the killer step…and then I wondered, how would I tell you that or what do I even DO about it? I have no idea. While in the shower, I thought to myself, “Awww screw it, just say THAT!

Almost every time I hit that point, things become a little bit clearer- not always better but maybe it is some way out. So this is what I am planning to do today, in all my grouchiness, feel free to join me if you are feeling grouchy too.

1. Yell, Growl, Do a marge simpson groan, Send a text. Any physical sound or form of frustration will do. The kind that lets the inside get outside with out hurting anyone else. You may have to go outside, nature can hear you and absorb, she’s super old. Send an SOS text to a friend, especially if you don’t feel like really talking.

2.Take an Emergen-C, Chug a glass of water, Eat something green. I know this is the very LAST thing you feel like doing but chances are even if you don’t feel totally connected to your body, it is in need of some care if you are grouchy. It can’t hurt.

3. Make your bed or shower,Take a nap. I promise you, clean sheets are the way to a new mind and heart. If your bed is already made religiously, a nap is probably in order. If you can’t turn your brain off or if you have small children- just lay there and close your eyes- rest, that’s right, rest. Showering is also helpful, who knew? Running water is a thing.

4. Just finish one thing. If there is total chaos around you or if you are overwhelmed, just do one thing, nothing else, just one. It doesn’t even have to be big. Mine is this blog post, I already feel better and dishes and a meeting are still waiting for me.

5. Say no to one thing. You don’t have to explain or apologize, just go to your e-mail right now and say you aren’t available and thank them, tell them you look forward to seeing so-and-so at the next meeting or event, or next opportunity- trust me, there is almost always another opportunity.

6. Make a sign. If you suck at telling people what you need, make a sign. I always get defensive and try to explain why I need all that, which is very little to begin with, just forget all that.
I need…
I need you to hug me…
I need 30 minutes by myself…
I need to know I’m not alone…
I need time with you…
I need to go see a movie…

If your people feel annoyed or angry, they probably need something too. Tell them to make a sign and then maybe you can help each other.

7. Kindness will melt you, Remind yourself you are loveable. – what would you do for a grouchy person that you really love? Do whatever that is for yourself.

In grouchy solidarity, text me “grouchy” to (407) 900-KIND and I will send you an encouraging, yet loving grouchy message back today. I know it will make me feel better too.

Texting closes at 10pm EST today!

12 Responses to “7 things to do when you are grouchy…”

  1. Donna Says:

    Cried and slowed down this morning, was late for school. Felt better when we declared a do-over. Now taking a dance break with baby and Jack’s Big Music Show. Still grouchy but determined to move through and maybe feel better by bedtime šŸ˜‰

  2. Patience, thank you for this! I spotted it on Facebook after being the target of some very frustrating office politics today….your timing could not have been better, I really needed this right now!! Thanks so much for all the good and kind work you do! šŸ˜€

  3. lisa Says:

    you always seem to post just what i need…i need some clean sheets and an emergen-c STAT! thank you šŸ™‚

  4. Cindy Tyra Says:

    If I had texting on my phone, I’d have sent you a text. Just found your blog through Oprah online. So glad I did!

  5. enermazing Says:

    Great tools! I’d like to add number 8, which works instantly:
    Take your mind off yourself – for instance by an act of kindness or a little happy surprise for someone else šŸ™‚

  6. amen. amen. amen. thank you, patience. i needed this today.

  7. Casey Hunt Says:

    Such a great post to read during a very busy October. It’s nice to slow down and remember the simple things like naps and clean sheets!

  8. anne Says:

    I love you……hope to see you in all your glory and possible grouchiness today, doesn’t matter, will take you just as you are my friend…:)

  9. Gilberta Says:

    I woke up grouchy, not being paid by my boss for two months, does that šŸ™‚ and then I found you at oprah.com and asked “is she a Portuguese girl like me?”. I gobbled your blog at 1000 miles per hour looking for clues, found lots of them but am not sure. Oh well it does not matter, the highlight of my day was finding you and your blog and I am grateful for that.

    All the best

    Gilberta (Jill)

  10. Tam Says:

    Found the article on the O mag just a few mins ago – already a fan! Will come back here for more kindness ideas!
    @Tokyo, Japan

  11. Kim Says:

    I just found your blog last week. Beautiful post! Hot bath, clean sheets and a nap may not cure a thing but it always makes me feel better.

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