what your heart needs…
January 5, 2014
Your heart needs a hug too… by Lucy, age 8
I don’t always know what my heart needs, in those moments I find my mind wanders in circles only stopping to turn the old rocks of my soul over or to imagine (i.e. obsess over) some sort of despair and forever lack of clarity. This may or may not happen every third week. I find this is possibly the dark side of FEELING ALL THE FEELINGS ALL THE TIME.
Then in an unexpected moment, someone wise says something so simple…and obvious. …like your heart needs a hug too.
Oh yeah, that.
Could it be so uncomplicated? It seems the most foundational truths usually are. This is why it’s good to keep babies and old wise ladies around. Newness reminds us how we all just need to be close to the source of safety and love, and the aged show how to loosen our grip, that everything changes (both good and bad) and we will find our way. There is no need for worry and fear, the energy need not leave our hearts and is best served other ways.
The fortitude grows, leaving only enough space for that which you truly need.
It’s too much for me to think of a whole year or life change. So today I start small, and new…the most simple need, the most simple thought…let it be, let it grow.
If you like, you can tell us your most simple need or truth in the comments. Is it a shower? Is it that you need someone to squeeze your shoulder or hand? Is it a walk or fresh air? Is it a one more blanket? Is it that you actually are very, very tired from the holiday? Is it that you need a stranger to send some hope or make you laugh? Is it that you are scared and strong at the same time? tell us loves…we are here.
Kindnessgirl 
January 5, 2014 at 9:40 am
I just need someone to tell me it will all be OK.
January 5, 2014 at 10:23 am
K, It will all be OK. HUG.
what I need to hear again is, “You are enough.”
Hugs to all of you from my heart.
PS I really do carry my Free Hugs sign Everywhere I go, I also have one taped to the back window of my car, so if you need a HUG virtually or in person, just let me know. (((((You))))) < this is Me Hugging YOU. ❤
January 5, 2014 at 10:51 am
K-It will all be ok. Really and truly…
Kristin-you are awesome. From one fellow hug monster to another!
My heart needs to just sit still and be. No rushing around with work, errands or family. Just a quiet pause…
Thanks as always Patience, for your poet’s heart….
January 5, 2014 at 11:43 am
Ok – the three comments above have me teary eyed-
K -it will be ok
Kristin- You are enough- and everything you said about the hugs are wonderful
Jen- I agree about sit still and be
However I believe what my heart needs today- is a break from this one area of my life that just keeps repeating year after year- for the last 17 years of my life-while the world tells you to keep the Faith and never give up- and I don’t- my heart truly just need a few years where i do not have to worry about finding another job thus being able to have enough money to move things along-
I enjoy writing, I have my Bachelors degree and yet I always find myself so pressed out for work _ i take any job available to generate income-I know this is the problem- and some how I am stuck-where all the motivational messages in the world- has not helped me to see past this hump
So as I prepare to start another job for 2014-I am thankful that I am able to find and work another job however I really just want this entire cycle of this facet in my life to stop-
January 5, 2014 at 4:16 pm
This last year was filled with change…some brought on by myself and my family, and some that came out of the blue and caused levels of anxiety that are still washing over me. What I need is clarity and some peace from, and for, my worried mind that just won’t shut off. I need solitude and understanding when those waves rise up and threaten to drown me where I stand.
January 6, 2014 at 12:23 am
I need my daughter to know that I was young once, too, that I discovered things, too, that I travelled, too, that things were once black and white for me. I am not only grey.
February 2, 2014 at 2:59 am
Sometimes I need to be reminded what a wondrous life I am living. Tomorrow I won’t watch the Super Bowl, instead I am going to look in my kids eyes and play with them, be present with them.
February 3, 2014 at 1:00 pm
What my heart needs… I could write a book(or blog) but for now I need to know my family will be alright. My younger sister found out she is pregnant at 40, she has two older children, a car that has be repossessed and she’s 3 months behind on her mortgage and her oldest son is having surgery in a week.. My older sister lost her job of over 25 years teaching because of lay offs and she has been making do the best they can, but its not enough. My youngest is in the military and has PTSD as well as physical problems and the military has been dragging his treatment on for years. He’s been through prescription after prescription and I’m afraid they are turning him into a drug attack. My husband hid tumors from me and hmself for over 2 years, but he finally confessed to me and we have started his path of recovery We have over $100,000.00 in medical bills now, but I consider myself the lucky one. Prayers ladies! Prayers to lift my heart!
February 7, 2014 at 3:04 pm
My heart needs to know I am valuable. I am often alone and live out a commuter marriage and I am sharing here because I cannot on facebook or to others, but I feel as though I am living in between singleness and widowhood. It gets really challenging. I am married, but since we have two households, I am responsible for taking care of things in my own home or seeking support and my husband does not visit at all, I am the one driving four hours to visit him. I am lonely. Not all the time, but too frequently.
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