February 21, 2009
February 20, 2009
February 18, 2009
It was the last day as just the brothers, their baby was going to be born in only a few hours. What do you do while you are waiting for your little person to come? Charlie and Sam let us hang out with them and find out…
first you help your friends dog shop…rescue mutts only please.
then you go to the toy store and try on funny hats…
after the funny hats, funny faces follow…
you decide you are hungry and head to the deli, you play the “who is getting a baby game?” while you wait for sandwiches…
it’s time to leave and go deliver a meal to another friend who got a baby this week, then home to get ready to party, it is valentine’s day after all…
you secretly hope your mom will be in labor at little bit longer (actually said this) so you can have your first sleepover…you then have your valentine’s day party and you don’t even know it but just as you were toasting to baby sisters and love, your very own sister, pippa, came into the world while your papa held your mama…it was magic.
and this is the day when 2 kids turned into 3…
Much love and happiness to the Wilsons…thanks for letting us be part of your day.
February 16, 2009
This is Jorgie’s tree… he bought it before the holidays and said he was going to grow our very own Christmas tree. I laughed and he faithfully watered everyday. Nothing happened for the longest time, but Jorge’s Journey philosophy in life and sheer love grew the little seed.
I look at the tiny plant on the windowsill everyday and feel a sort of friendship. I’m out and growing. No hiding under a dirt surface, I’m growing both ways now. I’m so into my things, it’s all I ever want to talk about…to talk about myself. (tiny gasp) For so long I mirrored the thoughts and feelings in a room, held back or guarded my own. It was my superpower to meet you wherever you were, and stay there. Except now I find my own ideas and opinions coming out of my mouth and sometimes, well, I’m slightly horrified. But I can’t swallow them back and it’s okay. Surprisingly, okay.
I’m no longer the most comfortable girl in the room to be with and I’m a little self-absorbed at the moment and I’m creating and kinda proud and frustrated and determined and scared and strong…and strong. It’s good and sad all at the same time.
I’m a growing girl…
February 14, 2009
capturing the moment…
being present in every second…
a powerful girl who finally decides it’s time to let you take her picture…
discovering the beauty all around…
finding myself in this new art…
seeing love through the lens…
I am blissing out on art and pictures and babies and family love this valentine’s day…I hope love finds you too today, in the way you need it most.
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February 11, 2009
All you need is love…It was Lucy’s first song. She sang it in the back seat of the car many a morning as we dropped boys off at school. I think she was trying to comfort herself, she wanted to go more than anything else. She was livin’ on love till her time came.
Whatever your relationship is with the holiday of love, here are a few ideas sure to make the love come ’round.
1. Welcome chocolate into your heart. Now is the time to invest in experience my friend. Buy good chocolate (dark and rich) and good wine. No worries if these things do not appear via someone tall, dark and handsome, Love yourself and love yourself well.
2. Get Suggestive. When Jorge started turning our “healing words” set of magnetic poetry into suggestive sexual phrases on the refrigerator I decided to see if the real thing existed. Whaddya know, it totally does and it is WAY fun! Every morning I wake up to or leave a phrase like this:
Our kids haven’t caught on and the sexual humor is endless. We never even speak about it, but sometimes I hear him laughing in the kitchen.
3. Give in to the Family Love. Growing up I had no idea Valentine’s Day was an exclusive holiday. My mother made a heart-shaped meatloaf, we decorated brown lunch bags to hold our family valentines, my dad brought home roses for me and my sisters. Embrace whatever kind of love is before you and invite it if it’s not there.
It came down to food one year. Jack suggested that if Valentine’s Day was about love we should each pick a food we love to eat at the “love dinner”. I kid you not, we had corn dogs, corn, and ham croquetas that year. and cheesecake with cherries on top for dessert. It was one of my favorite Valentine’s ever.
4. Skip the expectation game. Don’t wait to see what your other is going to do or not do before you decide how this holiday is going to go down in the history books. Make a general plan leaving just a little room for surprise should one person be feeling the desire. It’s better to be in it together.
5. Spread the love. It’s the perfect time to share the love around. Take red flowers and homemade notes to old ladies or other unsuspecting individuals- teacher’s aides, school janitors, toll collectors, grocery baggers, etc. The love will come right back to you, kindness love is like that.
Make way for love to come…it is all around.
February 9, 2009
“Oh yes, we just got back from Sundance, it was lovely and the film did well too….” These are the exchanges in my head when I day dream. We all remember this little period of delusion I had a couple years back. I love film, it feels like the best church…it’s an image, there is music, emotion, a message. Sometimes it’s complicated and deep, other times light and joyous, all of it speaks to my soul. Part of me can’t deny my desire to create it, craft it, enter it.
So then this crosses my path:
Birth Matters Virginia (a non-profit organization that works to improve the culture of birth) is sponsoring a documentary contest with celebrity filmmaker judges and cash prizes of $1000, $500, and $100.
We’re looking for short (4-7 minutes) documentary-style films that will educate women about the choices they have surrounding birth. We live in a culture where epidurals, inductions, and c-sections are common place events, and where women may not know they they have a say in what interventions take place when they give birth.
You don’t have to be a parent or have any experience with birth in order to enter. You just have to have a curious mind and an ability to research birth in America with an open mind and an eye toward exposing audiences to new ways of thinking about birth. Entering will make you eligible for the $1000 first-place prize and could also expose your work to internationally acclaimed filmmakers and documentary producers Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein.
The deadline for entering the contest is Mother’s Day, May 10, 2009. Everything you need to know about the contest can be found here: http://www.birthmattersva.org/videocontest.html
You can also join our Facebook group to get updates about the contest and exchange ideas with other participants at
And if you have questions, email Sarah at Richmond@birthmattersva.org
And I’m part of the group of women that came up with this very brilliant idea- except I wasn’t there that night, the night when all of this was discussed and decided. Isn’t it screaming for me to do it, to try, to make dreams come true with a 7 minute video that surely will go on to Sundance? I know, I know. So now I’m mildly tortured because I can’t enter but you can! And your friends can! And other dreamer wanna be indy film people can! Consider this your personal invitation to the rest of your exciting creative life…and if you are still unsure, will you at least pass this on? This thing is gonna be big, I can feel it and you could be the person that was there from the start. We are a Youtube generation, anything can happen.
Go film friends and dreamers, I’ll live vicariously through you until my moment comes….at a minimum, link this for me, will ya? We need the power of every man, the grass roots, the true wisdom of a gathered people hoping for change.
Feel free to e-mail me if you would like more information. Patience@kindnessgirl.com
February 5, 2009
February 3, 2009
(i really just wanted a reason to post this picture of lyra, i’m swooning over this kid these days)